New Moon Thought Experiment

What if the violence and clashing we're witnessing is really about an unmet desire for physical connection? What if the psychology of 'the bully' archetype so rampant in certain communities is really about a deep fear of being unacceptable? I wonder what would a proactive intervention, simply as a thought experiment, with a bully look like?
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Here are my working thoughts on this topic. Or, perhaps this is how I'm trying to cope, who knows.

• The first step for me is both the simplicity and challenge of forgiveness. To oneself and to the bully. I ponder: when have I, perhaps inadvertently, been a bully? Connecting on that level by seeing myself (no matter how subtly) in the other helps. We were all shitty children to each other at some point. Some folks are blind to it that's all. 
• Then it's time to reframe, regroup and reorganize the relationship to the bully, within myself and others. A bully is an archetypal phenomenon, it's nothing new and shiny. It's good to remember that and keep things framed this way. In some ways, it's not even personal. In fact, on the upside, the friction around a bully can instigate profound transformation.
• Next, it's time to summon the clarity to be consistent and stay cool. We don't fight fire with fire and bullying a bully is absurd. It's possible for equanimity to be cultivated within oneself around these things. 
• Finally: I know this from experience --> bullies have immense power even as they nurse a tender inner coward who feels threatened in some way. Are there ways to help inspire the bully to focus that power towards heroic action instead of self loathing and lashing out? 

I ruminate these things as an ongoing, personal thought experiment. For example, I wonder what might happen if the peace that passes all understanding were to unveil gracefully in the hearts of those who participated in the Capitol Riots? Oooo, or better yet, Donald J. Trump himself?

What if we were to collectively launch a thought experiment where we envisioned forgiveness, regrouping and consistency with a prayer for peace?  Just like ball players do before a big game. They imagine specific drills and shots so that when the time comes, they are at-the-ready. What if we got "at-the-ready" for transformed hearts? What amazing heroism could be revealed for humanity? As a platform to move forward with minimal resentment.  To recalibrate. To ultimately heal.

It doesn't mean accountability isn't called for or necessary. In fact, quite the contrary. All I'm suggesting is that these steps (for me) allow a path to move forward without poisoning my own heart. 

May it be so.